Following on from a coaching session with one of my Clients yesterday it got me thinking about the concept that concrete and coaching don’t mix.
My Client is a Civil Engineering Contractor and is wanting to take his business to the next level so we’ve been having regular coaching sessions to look at what actions he needs to do to grow his business and maximise profits. When he first contacted me he didn’t have any headspace at all, it was full of all of the things he knew he needed to do and deal with but didn’t know where to start and he was very stressed. We use the word stress a lot, it’s a feeling that we have but what does it mean? It’s basically when perceived pressure exceeds your perceived ability to cope.
Fast forward a few sessions later and he’s getting clearer but a couple of weeks ago I went to site to do the session as planned and he was having a disastrous day, the concrete pour was not going well and the water had managed to disconnect itself somehow. That day we cut the session short so he could deal with the issue but that prompted me to share with you a couple of tools you can use to help you get more headspace.
The first one is to breathe. Sounds a bit daft to say that as we need to breathe BUT, this is called the 7/11 breath. It’s a technique I was taught on my coaching course and used many times as a Project Manager when I felt stressed and pulled in lots of different directions. I used to take myself off to the ladies and practice breathing in for 7 counts and breathing out for 11. Do that a few times and it really does calm you down. When you get stressed it shuts off the part of your brain that thinks creatively which is just what you don’t need in that situation. Next time you feel yourself getting stressed, try it and let me know if it works.
The second tool is simple, when you’re mind is full, write it down. The short term memory part of your brain acts like the RAM of a computer. It keeps storing things that keep going round and around your head like an unclosed loop. If you don’t find a way to close the loop you can literally go loopy! Every time you tell yourself ‘I need to do this, I must sort that’ but then you don’t do anything with it, your short term memory stores it, and the more things you tell yourself, the fuller it gets until you may feel like your head could explode.
So, get a piece of paper and have a massive dump, a brain dump I’m referring to, just to be clear! When you write things down that signals to your brain that you’ve closed the loop and it empties it from your short term memory.
Both tools are simple but effective and I hope you find them useful. Enjoy the rest of your week and I’d love to know how you get on if you use them.
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